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Jordan,

I teach high school and I have a son who is 11, so while I've never been in your shoes and I can't say I know exactly what you are going through, I do have experience with teenagers. The sad thing is that some kids will do anything to be "popular" - even if that means they tear other people down. I know adults will say to ignore them, but if this has been going on since 4th grade, obviously ignoring them isn't working.

Jessica has some great ideas. What are your interests? Are you into sports? Music? Drama or speech? Art? Writing? Whatever your passion, that's where you start. Look into clubs your school has that deal with your passion. First of all, joining something like that, doing what you love to do, can help give you an outlet. Second of all, you might end up meeting some great people who like you for exactly who you are.

I will also repeat what Jessica asked - have you talked with any teachers, counselors or administration in your school? Hopefully they take things like this seriously and they can be a source of support for you. I know that sometimes getting adults involved can make things worse, but if there's a teacher you trust, I would talk with them. Even if they don't punish the bullies, if that's something you don't want to happen for fear of retaliation or something, they can be a great sounding-board and support system for you. Also, what about your parents? I realize I know nothing about your situation, but if you haven't talked with your parents I would encourage you to think about doing so.

Laura

Dear Jordan,

I know what you mean about feeling invisible. Sometimes, I used to wish I was invisible just so others would leave me alone, they couldn't pick on me if they couldn't see me right? I am sorry to hear that your school administration refuses to take real action. I know that a lot of times, saying something seems to make matters worse because the kids then want revenge on you for getting them in trouble. Don't give up!

I know every one is different but I found that for me, reading and writing poetry, or just journaling helped me to get through a lot of it. I think the group you are involved with is very important and I am so glad that you are a part of this group. Do you know of anything outside of school that you could get involved with? Boys & Girls Club? A youth group? Again I don't know if you are involved with any religious affiliation... I would really like to hear more about you! Sometimes pen pals, can be great friends!

Proud to be Your friend,
Jessica